Being yourself should be the easiest thing in the world, but sometimes it can feel like you’re trying to climb the highest mountain…


I like to get down and dirty, aka, personal with you guys sometimes and this is one of those posts. Recently, it’s been on my mind and what better way to get my thoughts out there than on my blog? I feel that I do try my best to enable you guys to know the real me through my social media, videos and of course posts.. but sometimes when it’s outfit chat, that can be tricky.

Anyway, before I ramble too much and you all click off, today’s post is all about, being myself and why sometimes, it doesn’t feel okay and why that’s simply not okay.

Sometimes in life you meet people you can 100% be yourself with and then sometimes, you don’t. Recently I was in a social situation which made me¬†feel¬†extremely uncomfortable in the presence of someone. I didn’t feel like I could really be myself without being judged and when I spoke I felt like a quiet little mouse, of the smallest kind. Why did I let myself feel like that and even more so let someone make me feel this way?

It can be difficult in the career I have chosen for myself. Sometimes brands and people will measure your success by your follower count. I must admit that over the years I have become accustomed to this and it is definitely something you have to learnt to ignore online, however in the real world it can seem a little tougher.

After some thinking, ranting and moaning I came to the conclusion that if I ever felt this way again whilst in the company of someone else, I would remove myself from the situation and go be myself somewhere else, to someone that makes me feel better about it. I also propose that you all do the same, it feels much nicer.

No one should make you doubt yourself.

“Don’t compromise yourself – you’re all you have”

Stay positive in social situations


If you feel an overwhelming sense of being uncomfortable, remove yourself from the situation. Whether it’s to the bar for a top up or to the bathroom for a breather. Take 5 minutes to yourself and count to 10.


If you’re lucky like me, you’ll have someone you can rely on for a little confidence boost. Mine is my dear Mother. A simple text and in just a few words she gives me confidence in myself. Having that person near by to rely on is always a really good saviour.


You can sometimes judge someone just as much as you feel they’re judging you. Give that person a chance, ask some questions, break the ice and hopefully the awkward vibes will disappear and all will be peachy.


Sometimes you have to stop caring. If you’re feeling judged by someone you’ve just met, who really cares. Know yourself, your good points and your positives and you can kick their butt in that head of yours.


Seriously awesome to read. These type of posts are the best. It’s comforting to know some thought that run through my head are present in others as well.

xo | Tessa

Well said lady! You can’t care about what others think all the time.

You are absolutely right, and I love how honest you are in this post! The photos are beautiful!

I absolutely loved this post and it couldn’t have came at a better time for me. The past week i’ve been struggling with this issue and i’m so baffled why because i literally never let anyone make me feel this way. Good to know i’m not the only dealing with those uncomfortable situations.

I feel like if you don’t feel like yourself with someone, then you can’t consider them a friend. A bit harsh, but it’s just a thought!
Aleeha xXx

i’m so bad at comparing myself to others. i do it all the time, especially lately as i have been lacking in confidence. sadly.

I love this, it’s so well written and so true. Number 1 is something I do often and there is nothing wrong with putting yourself first in those moments x
Trudy | TrudyJohanna

I love how honest you are in this post, and yes it’s okay to be feel uncomfortable sometimes. I definitely have felt the way you mentioned- small and unheard of. Already being a shy person as it is, I often find it difficult to speak up or center myself with a bunch of people I don’t know that well. xxx

I love reading posts like this. I’ve been in similar situations and it is comforting to know others have felt the same way.