WHY AM I NOT PERFECT?

Now and then I do like to “twist” (sorry!) things up a little over here and that usually includes a lifestyle type post. I’ve done a few in the past (you can read those here) and they’ve always gone down well with you guys. I actually quite like a little lifestyle post here and there, and am going to mix it up with a few travel ones too, so keep your eyes peeled (not literally, that would be painful)



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Anyway, today’s post is about comparison. This is something I have previously suffered with on a daily basis (and sometimes still do) it’s safe to say I absolutely despise it. I often wonder if the world would be a nicer place without social media, image sharing, Photoshop, magazines.. but I guess that will never happen. Instead we are faced with photos of perfection.. which most of the time, is realistically unattainable. Up until a few years ago, I never really worried about my body, my looks, ‘myself’ as a whole, I kind of just accepted that I was alright, just me in this big ol’ world of hot people. Now, I find that through blogging I see so many beautiful images, perfectly toned stomachs, blow dried hair, glossed faces and I guess the natural thing to do there is think “they are all so much better than me.” Roughly a year ago I actually spent a good few months working out non-stop at the gym (even on a Friday evening..) eating lettuce leaves for lunch, spending hours treating my hair, my face, my nails.. and you know what? I wasn’t really any happier. Maybe a few pounds lighter and I must admit, I did have pretty god-damn nice nails.. but what for? The pressure I put on myself was terrible, and inside I just felt really flamin’ sad.


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I’m 27 now (wow, when did that happen?!) and I suppose I’ve grown up a bit recently. Sure, I still think “crap, why did I eat that whole bar of Galaxy in 10 minutes?!” and my instagram feed does sometimes make me a little depressed (usually whilst in PJ’s with greasy hair) but ah, you know what… I’m ME. I’m alright, I do okay, I can hold a conversation, I have career that I love and have made from nothing, a loving family, a lovely boyfriend, nice friends, a car.. it’s not so bad.


Now, as soon as I start to feel bad about myself, I try to instead be inspired. I’m 5’6″ (ish?) a healthy build.. I’m never going to be naturally tanned, 5’3″ and a size zero, it’s physically impossible. I have a little bump in my nose, my front tooth sticks forward a little and my elbows are really bloody ugly (honestly, they really are) but to hell with trying to change all those. There’s no way I’m carving out my elbow bones! Anyway.. what I’m trying to say here, is just be happy in your skin and when you see someone – a photo, a person that makes you feel bad about yourself, think of all the good things you have and instead be inspired.


And just to let you know, I’m not saying that being healthy is bad or that going to the gym is terrible – just as long as you’re doing it for the right reasons. If you feel like there’s a constant cloud over you 24/7 to be perfect, I’ve been there.. and hours of working out won’t make it go away. Loving yourself and who you are on the inside first is the best cure for that, in my opinion.


And I think you’re pretty damn amazing.

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  • Lovely post. I agree we should never compare ourselves and just embrace what we have 🙂 x

    Emma | Emmys Beauty Cave

  • Grace

    OMG I love this article, purely because it just raises awareness that we all feel like this all the darn time. But you are a perfect friend and absolutely beautiful, even if there are times that you don’t see it (ahem, Miranda Kerr doppleganger) xxx

  • Lovely post, really enjoyed the new style of writing!

    Anika | http://www.anikamay.co.uk

  • This was such a beautiful post to read Laura – we’ve all been there! I’m starting to realise though that all the little things that I class as ‘flaws’ are what make me different and are what other people love and remember me by!
    Looking forward to more posts like this x

    http://www.alwaysalice.co.uk

  • Alana Says…

    I totally agree… I always compare myself to others and it kind of sucks. I am starting to realise though that I need to be happy being me xx

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  • Lyndsey Emma

    I think this is something absolutely everyone has experienced and in today’s society it is a daily struggle – but this was a great post as everyone needs a reminder every now and again!

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  • Comparison is so dangerous. For example, you saying you wished you were 5″3 – I am 5″3 and I would love to be a good few inches taller! We always want what we can’t have don’t we?

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  • Carly

    Comparison is definitely one of the worst things we can do to ourselves. Social media certainly doesn’t help the battle, but it’s important to keep in mind that we all have good moments in life and bad ones and all have amazing features and ones that we would like to change
    Dresses & Denim

  • great post sweetie…
    kisses from dubai ♥
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  • Thank you for this! So often we are bombarded with images and stories of people who seem like they have their life together, but I think secretly we all struggle to some degree – and some people are just afraid of being vulnerable. And I get that! It’s hard to be open and candid in front of a public audience. So thank you for breathing a little raw honesty into my day, I really appreciate it! xx

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  • Beauty Bird

    Great post. I saw a quote on Pinterest that said comparison is the thief of joy and I always try and remember that xx

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